WHO WE ARE

Catherine 13 Mar 2009 Headshot Small

Catherine Varga

Catherine is a professional, personal life, family and a Certified Family Coach with a private practice based in Sydney. She completed the Advanced Coaching Course from The Academy for Family Coach. She also has a Master in Economics.

Catherine worked for large and small corporations in Australia, New Zealand and USA in areas of strategic planning, business development, marketing and project management. When interacting with customers, or the teams that she managed, Catherine employed coaching. She coached people at all levels of the corporate world – from employees to senior executive management. Catherine’s approach is to work with the person behind the employee or behind the executive.

This is the focus and the passion of her coaching programs. At home or at work, an employee or an executive, the quality of family life is at the center of the quality of life of each person.

Catherine has an exceptional ability in understanding the underlying subtleties and complexities of her clients’ emotional life. Using this ability, she supports her clients in unveiling, acknowledging and expressing dreams and goals. Clients learn to reach within themselves to identify and overcome obstacles. They start to establish a better life balance and attend to what they always wanted and didn’t dare to.

Catherine supports her clients to sift through the overwhelming issues of daily and professional life and create open reliable relationships with their teens and pre-teens.

Using the structured ways of Parent as Coach Approach©, parents learn to create relationships of encouragement and support, of love and care, mutual responsibility and accountability.

Catherine guides the parents and teenagers at their own pace to learn new skills and tools to help them bring to the surface their own internal resources to parenting and to enhance their own life. With the belief that each relationship within a family is unique from each parent to each child and teen, Catherine structures the coaching sessions based on respect and understanding and provides a customized approach, development and path.

Parents and teenagers will also learn how to extend the new skills to the rest of their life be it private or professional with amazing results.

Catherine’s beliefs and experience are that parents can experience the years of raising teenagers as years of enthusiasm, pleasure, creativity and emotional satisfaction in connecting fully with their teenagers and even with their friends.

Our Philosophy

What I want most for you parents, is to turn around and deeply know the souls of your child, of your teenager because...

I believe that the health of our world is determined by how we teach our children to relate to themselves and to others, whether angry and destructive, or caring and peaceful; in anger and defensiveness, or with self-reliance. So, to create a healed world, it is up to us as parents to heal how we raise our children—and that begins with how we heal ourselves.

Can we build peace among people, if we can’t build peace in our own homes? How can we be there for each other as people, if we don’t know how to be there for our own family members or for ourselves? It is not possible. The world is a reflection of our homes. To change things on a global scale, we must first change things in the home.But it does not begin with your child improving and changing.It starts with you. It begins with you healing you. What does that mean? When you are healed as a human, you have unshakable trust in yourself. You feel safe, no matter what is happening around you. You do not need anything for you understand that you have all you need inside.When you are healed, then, as a parent, you feel safe no matter what your teenager does. You do not need to “re-arrange” him or her so that you feel comfortable. Respected. Good. They don’t need to speak, or act, or think in any particular way—because there is nothing you will lose either way. You have strength like a “Golden Rod” within you, governing you, rather than fear.

Only when you are strong like this, you have the capacity to love your child in a way that enables a peaceful world.

Do you feel driven by the need to control your teen’s schedule? Control their habits, decisions and thoughts? Do you try to manage things so your teen won’t go down the wrong path and destroy their future? Do you criticize? Lecture? Demand? Nag?Then your trust in yourself is in shambles. It comes and goes, crumbles and is strengthened, depending on the way others relate to you.If you felt no need to be validated, loved, respectable, “seen,” honored, wanted, and needed — you would do none of these things.

These are fears—fears that without them, you lack worth. Therefore, in fact, you are, using your children to control your own fears; to ensure that you don’t have to come face-to-face with them. Your teens are your buffer: as long as they are the problem, you are not.Then, you send them out into the world fearful, overly obedient, angry, needing things from others (just like you)–instead of sending them out creative, caring, peaceful, free to express themselves and joyful—as they came in able to do.It takes a dramatic (but not difficult) personal change to find your inner strength. It means developing and growing yourself into someone who knows that happiness is your job—not anyone else’s, least of all your teen. And your upsets are yours; they are not caused by anyone else, least of all your teen.When you NEED NOTHING from your children, the fog clears and they stand before you with all of their strengths and capabilities (which were always there, but you could not see them through the haze of needing them to protect you from yourself.)When you trust that you will lose nothing, that you will still be whole and intact no matter what your child does—you teach them that they can handle anything, too.YOU are the key to transforming your life, your child’s and even the world.Failing to understand this, and choosing other parenting principles that do not address this root cause, will lead you to easily forget these and techniques, slipping back into old ways.

You cannot create changed parenting with old tools. You need new ones.

You need a parenting paradigm that allows you to become clear, deep down in yourself, about your strengths. A paradigm that allows you to redefine what love indeed means – especially love toward yourself, so that it flows effortlessly to your teenager. When discomfort is no longer a threat, when it is instead a sign to expand and become more resilient, you become a parent who can let your teens say what they want and need to: bare their souls without fear of judgment and criticism; think what they need to think; make mistakes; go the wrong way — and then come home to the safest place on earth:  a parent or parents who are safe within themselves.  YES!

Your children don’t want or need you to be invincible, but they need your inner strength.

PARENTS & TEENS

What is coaching

LIFE & PROFESSIONAL COACHING
Catherine helps her clients to sift through the overwhelming issues of daily and professional life and create a path for the goals that they tend to postpone and put aside as they find no time or energy to even consider.

  • Clients learn how focus on the future and start enjoying it in the present, even if starting in small doses and regain meaning for life, when lost. “Many times we find out that sometimes deceptively simple and consistent steps take you were you want to get”.
  • Clients learn how to ignite the desire and energy for change, sometimes dramatic, sometimes in small doses.
  • Clients start changing aspects in their current life, such as a new career, new training, realizing long-forgotten dreams, attending to hobbies – they move forward despite a sense of lethargy, inaction, and procrastination.
  • Clients learn how to build a work/life balance and reduce stress and improve relationships (intimate, with family or friends).
  • Clients learn how to create new long-lasting habits conducive of long-lasting benefits.

It help clients maintain momentum of great ideas found in moments of inspiration, ideas in danger to be lost when attending to personal and professional on going issues.

“If we tend to look at the ground when we walk, we bump in people, trees, boxes, whatever. We hurt ourselves and we hurt the others. Everything is an obstacle. When we look forward, to where we want to go, we can smile to people, admire the trees, see the blue of the sky and get wherever we want. What if the road is treacherous? Look down, assess, look forward and step over the dirt.”

WORKSHOPS

Children’s behavior changes as the become teenagers and continues to evolve as they move through the teen years. The parent-teen relationship is new to both the parent and the teenager. This relationship needs to change to be successful and this happens as the parent’s

iStock_000007761307XSmall-300x225new

WORKSHOP OUTCOMES

  • Parents understand how parents and society relate to teenagers.
  • Parents adopt new interaction and parenting tools to support a new type of relationship – using the Parent as Coach Approach© from The Academy for Family Coach.
  • Parents apply skills of professional coaching to interact with their teens – Parents will apply these skills in all areas of their life.

Learning to coach your teens you will find with surprise that by being coached you will maintain the momentum of great ideas found in moments of inspiration – ideas in danger of being lost when carried away by busy daily lives.

iStock_000000098965XSmall-235x300new

SESSION STRUCTURE

Each session will last two hours:

  • A short introduction and a succinct review of previous week’s action/practice sheet and insights.
  • A new concept will be presented, discussed and practiced.
  • Actions and practices for the coming week are revised and clarified.

You will receive a textbook, a workbook, a series of exercises and practices, and email support from Catherine.

WEEK WORKSHOP SERIES

  • Week 1. – Coaching and its language: Respect
  • Week 2. – Listening to Understand: Listening from the other person’s point of view
  • Week 3. – Clear Mutual Requests, Agreements and Responsibility
  • Week 4. – Understanding, Support and Appreciation: Promote and Nourish independence.

PARENTING TIPS

Follow these easy steps to help your relationships...

iStock_000002698381XSmall

Daily Practice –
Notice the good deeds

Everyday for the next week notice two things you liked in your younger child, teen, partner and yourself.

  • Move a step back from the outcome – the outcome might be the one desired or not.
  • What was the process that each one went through?
  • Spend 10 minutes in the evening focusing only on what you liked. Book time on your mobile to remind you practice. You can do it while you’re walking, resting, waiting for the food to cook. Ideally, you’d also journal it.
  • On the 7th day review the week. First become aware of how you feel and your posture. Then review your observations. What does it tell you about your younger child, teen, partner and yourself? Become aware of how your feelings would have changed. How powerfully could you honestly say “This is good!”
Mother Arguing With Teenage Daughter

Being at home with teens – being available

Unlike popular belief, parents need to spend even more time at home during the adolescence of their children.
The teenager might ignore you. However, they need you at home, to be there, quiet and available.

WHAT ARE YOU MODELLING?

  • If you need to clean or iron clothes, clean or iron
  • Be genuinely relaxed and calm – you’re helping your teen in growing up – it’s interesting and fun
  • Find a hobby, or read an interesting book. Avoid watching television or using the internet for too long
  • Go walking for 30 minutes and mention it: “Would you like to join me for a fast walk?” Don’t take it personally if turned down.
  • Be home in time. Better even, do some exercises at home
  • Read, meditate, or practice mindful breathing – model relaxation
  • Be available, though. If they start talking, drop everything what you do and turn around and if the teen is happy look at them, face them. If you sense that they are uncomfortable, just slow down significantly and listen. Show presence. Don’t give advice, unless asked a few times. Just listen, until you are sure they finished their idea. You’re their sounding board. They might say shocking things and re-think them. They need to think out loud, uninterrupted.

 

 

 

SPEAKING ENAGEMENTS

Speaking for companies – Small, Medium and Large Corporations

Brown Bag Lunches for Employees – Employees bring their own lunch to the conference room. Catherine facilitates highly interactive workshops, with care for privacy rules within a company:

The challenges and joys of parenting teenagers

  • When parents feel that their communication with their child is breaking down
  • When parents feel their child is sliding away from them and their influence
  • When parents feel alone, isolated, unsure of how to go on

 

Preparing for your future teenager – Parents of pre-Teens – Keep and improve the connections with your future teenager

  • Your role changes – bringing up a teenager to become a self-reliant young adult

Benefits to coporations – supporting employees to:

  • Better manage their relationships at home and improved work performance
  • Support employee engagement address life and work balance
  • Reduce stress at home and therefore at work
  • Dramatically improve coaching skills within all areas of employee’s life

Manager as Coach – Parent as Coach ®

Speaking for Parents and Citizens Associations
60 minutes talks for parents

  • Focusing on building them up – The teenager brain development between 10-25 – Your role
  • Preparing you pre-Teen to the transition to middle schools
  • Priorities in your relationship with your teen – ground tools and techniques to keep the interactions open, interesting and fun
  • Connect with your Teenagers in your new role of parenting – Parent as Leader – bringing the best your youngsters – values. Boundaries, self-reliance and independence
  • The traps of indulgence and focus on achievements only

For information about having Catherine Varga talk to your business, college, middle and high school please feel free to contact her here.

 Book Now!

Testimonies

  • I am really grateful to Catherine Varga for coaching me for over six months. I found the framework of working towards a defined set of goals a good one. Catherine’s technique is to show that you can take small, measured steps, so that reaching your ultimate goal becomes a simpler, less frightening process. She encouraged me to stretch myself and to think outside the box. Catherine never allowed me to become complacent, showing that there is always room for improvement. And even though my coaching is over, I carry that message with me – to keep on taking steps and making changes

    - Phyll S (Australia) -
  • I found Catherine’s coaching extremely valuable. She helped me transform challenges into great opportunities. For example, by broadening the way I thought about my career opportunities, and sharing valuable information with me, I applied for a job I wouldn’t have otherwise applied for – and got it! My new job pays 20 percent more, is allowing me to develop new skills and increase my professional network, has improved my lifestyle because it’s much closer to my home, and has raised my career to a new level. Catherine has a gentle, wise and insightful approach to coaching. She is obviously a woman with extensive business and life experience, which supports her formalised coaching skills and knowledge.Working with Catherine has been a very empowering and energising experience. I’ve learn’t a lot about helping myself through goal setting, directed action, and seeking out the right guidance

    - Renee K (Australia) -
  • Catherine has been a wonderful support and source of inspiration during my eldest son’s HSC journey and early girlfriend experiences. I have 3 teenage sons who are quite different from one another and Catherine was able to suggest new realistic and practical ways of helping all of  them and myself reach our potential as members of a happy harmonious family. It was an unobtrusive and very positive experience.” 

    - Evelyn M (Australia) -
  • One of the fundamental concepts I learned in my sessions with Catherine was the importance of respect, which she emphasized every time we spoke. I had not been aware of this overwhelming need that teenagers have to be valued as emerging adults. As parents we tend to see our kids as children and treat them as such. … Catherine explained the concept …So when I connected the word “respect” to specific recognizable individual qualities for each of my daughters, it no longer sounded hollow or fake, and it got their attention when I mentioned how much I appreciated that specific quality. It increased immediately and visibly their confidence and self-esteem, as well as our relationship. Their whole expression glowed.  I realize now that this concept has to be constantly utilized and worked on, every week! In addition to the concepts above I also learned  how to improve on my listening skills as a parent. I discovered that I was a poor listener, and I understood how important this skill really is in order to have a trusting relationship with your teen. This is probably one of my weakest areas, and where I need a lot of conscious practice and effort. Catherine provided me with several good tools and powerful questions ..to practice every day… I found the support questions, the over-stretched questions, the clarification/evaluation questions and the learning from experience questions particularly helpful because they avoid the dreaded “why” or judgmental questions which apparently teens resent. These are just a few of the many valuable concepts and skills that I’ve been exposed to in my sessions with Catherine, for which I’m very grateful. I understand that it is only a beginning, it takes conscious determination and planning to become “proficient” in using these skills, but I could already see the benefits of an improved relationship with my daughters.

    - Ilana S (US) -

Contact us

Bondi Junction, NSW – MOBILE: +61 425 388 125

No Fields Found.
No Fields Found.