Catherine worked for large and small corporations in Australia, New Zealand and USA in areas of strategic planning, business development, marketing and project management. When interacting with customers, or the teams that she managed, Catherine employed coaching. She coached people at all levels of the corporate world – from employees to senior executive management. Catherine’s approach is to work with the person behind the employee or behind the executive.
This is the focus and the passion of her coaching programs. At home or at work, an employee or an executive, the quality of family life is at the center of the quality of life of each person.
Catherine has an exceptional ability in understanding the underlying subtleties and complexities of her clients’ emotional life. Using this ability, she supports her clients in unveiling, acknowledging and expressing dreams and goals. Clients learn to reach within themselves to identify and overcome obstacles. They start to establish a better life balance and attend to what they always wanted and didn’t dare to.
Catherine supports her clients to sift through the overwhelming issues of daily and professional life and create open reliable relationships with their teens and pre-teens.
Using the structured ways of Parent as Coach Approach©, parents learn to create relationships of encouragement and support, of love and care, mutual responsibility and accountability.
Catherine guides the parents and teenagers at their own pace to learn new skills and tools to help them bring to the surface their own internal resources to parenting and to enhance their own life. With the belief that each relationship within a family is unique from each parent to each child and teen, Catherine structures the coaching sessions based on respect and understanding and provides a customized approach, development and path.
Parents and teenagers will also learn how to extend the new skills to the rest of their life be it private or professional with amazing results.
Catherine’s beliefs and experience are that parents can experience the years of raising teenagers as years of enthusiasm, pleasure, creativity and emotional satisfaction in connecting fully with their teenagers and even with their friends.
I believe that the health of our world is determined by how we teach our children to relate to themselves and to others, whether angry and destructive, or caring and peaceful; in anger and defensiveness, or with self-reliance. So, to create a healed world, it is up to us as parents to heal how we raise our children—and that begins with how we heal ourselves.
Can we build peace among people, if we can’t build peace in our own homes? How can we be there for each other as people, if we don’t know how to be there for our own family members or for ourselves? It is not possible. The world is a reflection of our homes. To change things on a global scale, we must first change things in the home.But it does not begin with your child improving and changing.It starts with you. It begins with you healing you. What does that mean? When you are healed as a human, you have unshakable trust in yourself. You feel safe, no matter what is happening around you. You do not need anything for you understand that you have all you need inside.When you are healed, then, as a parent, you feel safe no matter what your teenager does. You do not need to “re-arrange” him or her so that you feel comfortable. Respected. Good. They don’t need to speak, or act, or think in any particular way—because there is nothing you will lose either way. You have strength like a “Golden Rod” within you, governing you, rather than fear.
Do you feel driven by the need to control your teen’s schedule? Control their habits, decisions and thoughts? Do you try to manage things so your teen won’t go down the wrong path and destroy their future? Do you criticize? Lecture? Demand? Nag?Then your trust in yourself is in shambles. It comes and goes, crumbles and is strengthened, depending on the way others relate to you.If you felt no need to be validated, loved, respectable, “seen,” honored, wanted, and needed — you would do none of these things.
These are fears—fears that without them, you lack worth. Therefore, in fact, you are, using your children to control your own fears; to ensure that you don’t have to come face-to-face with them. Your teens are your buffer: as long as they are the problem, you are not.Then, you send them out into the world fearful, overly obedient, angry, needing things from others (just like you)–instead of sending them out creative, caring, peaceful, free to express themselves and joyful—as they came in able to do.It takes a dramatic (but not difficult) personal change to find your inner strength. It means developing and growing yourself into someone who knows that happiness is your job—not anyone else’s, least of all your teen. And your upsets are yours; they are not caused by anyone else, least of all your teen.When you NEED NOTHING from your children, the fog clears and they stand before you with all of their strengths and capabilities (which were always there, but you could not see them through the haze of needing them to protect you from yourself.)When you trust that you will lose nothing, that you will still be whole and intact no matter what your child does—you teach them that they can handle anything, too.YOU are the key to transforming your life, your child’s and even the world.Failing to understand this, and choosing other parenting principles that do not address this root cause, will lead you to easily forget these and techniques, slipping back into old ways.
You cannot create changed parenting with old tools. You need new ones.
You need a parenting paradigm that allows you to become clear, deep down in yourself, about your strengths. A paradigm that allows you to redefine what love indeed means – especially love toward yourself, so that it flows effortlessly to your teenager. When discomfort is no longer a threat, when it is instead a sign to expand and become more resilient, you become a parent who can let your teens say what they want and need to: bare their souls without fear of judgment and criticism; think what they need to think; make mistakes; go the wrong way — and then come home to the safest place on earth: a parent or parents who are safe within themselves. YES!
Your children don’t want or need you to be invincible, but they need your inner strength.
LIFE & PROFESSIONAL COACHING
Catherine helps her clients to sift through the overwhelming issues of daily and professional life and create a path for the goals that they tend to postpone and put aside as they find no time or energy to even consider.
It help clients maintain momentum of great ideas found in moments of inspiration, ideas in danger to be lost when attending to personal and professional on going issues.
Learning to coach your teens you will find with surprise that by being coached you will maintain the momentum of great ideas found in moments of inspiration – ideas in danger of being lost when carried away by busy daily lives.
Each session will last two hours:
You will receive a textbook, a workbook, a series of exercises and practices, and email support from Catherine.
Everyday for the next week notice two things you liked in your younger child, teen, partner and yourself.
Unlike popular belief, parents need to spend even more time at home during the adolescence of their children.
The teenager might ignore you. However, they need you at home, to be there, quiet and available.
WHAT ARE YOU MODELLING?
Brown Bag Lunches for Employees – Employees bring their own lunch to the conference room. Catherine facilitates highly interactive workshops, with care for privacy rules within a company:
The challenges and joys of parenting teenagers
Preparing for your future teenager – Parents of pre-Teens – Keep and improve the connections with your future teenager
Benefits to coporations – supporting employees to:
Manager as Coach – Parent as Coach ®
Speaking for Parents and Citizens Associations
60 minutes talks for parents
For information about having Catherine Varga talk to your business, college, middle and high school please feel free to contact her here.
Bondi Junction, NSW – MOBILE: +61 425 388 125No Fields Found.